Writer Extraordinaire

Here to write & would love you to read my thoughts. Share them, embrace them, even learn from there. I just am here to do something I love...WRITE (and post a few pictures/thoughts from Instagram). Oh, & by the way, #YBW.

My departing post. Phone is officially being turned off after this post. Thank you everyone for the support. 🙏 works wonders. My infamous trio. Shots fired, mics dropped, & cups smacked. See ya soon social media networking outlets/sites.

My departing post. Phone is officially being turned off after this post. Thank you everyone for the support. 🙏 works wonders. My infamous trio. Shots fired, mics dropped, & cups smacked. See ya soon social media networking outlets/sites.

Rushing…

I’ll apologize now & get it out of the way. This may be a repeat offender
sorta blog, but it’s the thought that’s crossed my mind tonight. I will go
ahead & share now that this will be the last blog I’m gonna be writing for
a while. Of course, I follow up with stating that many of you know why,
while others of you don’t & have found your preferred ways of inquiring. If
you’ve directly contacted me and gotten a fair source of information, then
I appreciate. If your source was “considered” to be reliable, but didn’t
come straight from the horse’s mouth, then that’s on you & until you come
clean & ask what’s going on, then that’s what it’s gonna be. I know many of
you have come for a blog, so I will write a blog & make it the most
enjoyable & honest blog I’ve written in quite some time. I have been on a
bit of a blogging freeze, with somewhat legitimate reasons. I was making
sure that this blog came from the heart obviously. Most importantly, I
don’t want it to sit in my e-mail account & become a draft that goes
unwritten. Why do we rush into things? When we rush into it, is it what
we’re looking for? What do we gain from that so called rush. One thing I
think about that has a rush but you have to wait to reach the rush are
roller coaster rides. They have so many loops & most of the time take up
hardly 2 minutes at the max. However, there are usually hundreds of people
waiting in line to get on a ride, & they have their respective places they
wanna sit on the ride (front, back, middle, etc). The best feeling for
someone is walking up to a ride & seeing no line, & seeing that the ride is
actually up and running. As expected, this blog isn’t about rides & the
rush of rides, so if that’s what you were coming for, I appreciate your
visit, but my true readers & lovers of thought know where I’m taking this
(or as usual, you know it’s gonna go somewhere unexpected).

Sometimes, men & women go into a situation involving their partner looking
for something. The problem becomes how fast it happens, & if it’s too fast.
Some forms of love and connections happen within an instant. I’ll admit
that I’ve made some great online friendships with people who have yet to
see me in person, but the times and moments that I talk with them, I enjoy
the hello’s & what’s up’s that come along the way. However, I haven’t met
those people & suddenly fallen for them. It’s this habit and problem that
people have where they fall for someone & they don’t even know what they’re
falling, & I will personally take a different approach on this blog (yep
here comes my monkey wrench). Last year involved a lot of rushing with me.
It was beyond relationships though. It involved my life, my routine,
wanting things to go a certain way, when in reality I needed to be still. I
had everything I needed, but I was so caught up in what I wanted that the
needs and priorities were VERY neglected. As I’ve written before, I take
full responsibility for this one. I highly dropped the ball on this one. I
can break down all of my relationship & dating situations from last year &
they exploded before they even had a chance to establish themselves. The
big mistake is that I was rushing to look for something instead of just
enjoying the moment & letting reality expose itself for what it’s worth. By
rushing all of these situations, I ended up being in situations and places
with people that became very uncomfortable very fast. You have to
understand that in most cases, you’re trying to give someone your all, when
you honestly don’t even know what your all is to begin with. There’s a head
scratcher all by itself (and yes, I’m aware that scratcher isn’t a word,
but it’ll be a word for the purpose of this blog). I have to admit that I
will tag quite a few people on this blog that I usually don’t tag on my
blogs, so if you’re one of the lucky ones, don’t feel like I’m writing this
targeting you, because that’s far from the case. I did a lot of things
wrong, & one thing that I point out is that it takes a big step to realize
when you have just messed up & done something that you didn’t have no
business doing in the first place. I rushed looking for something that I
didn’t even need, when in truth I wasn’t getting what I was going after in
the first place. That’s the mistake people make day in day out without
realizing it. You make decisions & hope your primary/gut instinct is legit.
Most of the time, it is, while other times, it’s the worst thing you could
have done. You usually find yourself realizing that leaving well enough
alone was the best & only way to have it along.

Thinking back to 2012, I was in a very active mindset back then. If I
wasn’t trying to help the kids at the boys & girls doing something, I was
working on the presidential re-election campaign. If I didn’t have a chance
to just enjoy some me time playing basketball, I was hanging with friends
enjoying life & knowing how to seize moments that may never happen again.
If it wasn’t ugly sweaters being worn, it was self dates doing things I
loved. I think the one thing I had a huge passion for & didn’t do enough of
& regret not handling more often was gaming. I would get my blogs out there
as usual & listen to music (I expanded my mental music eargasm’s to another
level (yep another made-up word, but roll with it)). I was doing some of
those things last year, but then I needed an even more important thing,
that I rushed, & that was a spiritual and more positive foundation. I refer
to it within that extreme because I was posting and sharing daily quotes,
but they weren’t coming from the right place. Granted, that doesn’t mean
I’m gonna post statuses every other day with God or Jesus that (because I
know that you don’t have to write for others, but still make your point
clear & direct to those who matter). I just wasn’t writing and sharing from
the heart & the mind. My thoughts were all over, & even had a tendency to
be subliminal in my thoughts. Sometimes, we need that message to push
someone, but there’s a time and place for it. OK, wait, I’m supposed to be
talking about rushing into things, right? Yeah, where was I? Oh yeah,
people rushing thinking they’re gonna get a better result when sometimes
they can literally run the person away. So my odd solution…you might have
to be sitting down for this, because some may think it’s harsh, but it’s
best to do it this way & speaking from experience, it cuts lets stress &
drama in the end. If you feel either rushed or uncomfortable with someone
about something going in a way that it’s not meant to, then you talk to
that person & see what they’re in a rush for? Is there something going on
that they’re not telling you about? Most importantly, do the feel you’re
gonna “go out” on them. Sometimes, people have a tendency to look at things
being more than what they are, when the truth is that everything would be
OK if the stress decreased & trust increased. Rushing things draws a HUGE
level of discomfort & frustration! A perfect example of this is my
blogging. If I ever write blogs that are rushed, it shows in the final
quality of the product. It’s written kinda dangling & doesn’t keep or
maintain everyone’s attention. Back to the cold-hearted truth, if you have
someone who’s falling close to that clingy or fatal phase that are rushing
everything, as a friend of mine said, you are to walk away slowly & then
literally RUN AWAY! It’s easier said than done (highly speaking from
experience for those who know all that’s going on with me), but you have to
prove to yourself primary that you’re the bigger person. If you do this,
there’s a lot of pride that you can gain from handling it this way. You
don’t think about how helpful it is to draw less stress on yourself. So,
that’s about as simple as I can share that point of view.

The mind is a terrible thing to waste. A video game I played a while back
said that we as human’s ONLY use 10% of our brain. Think of what would
happen if we actually used our mind to it’s full potential & weren’t
claiming to be lazy or putting things off that could possibly help someone,
let alone ourselves. The world would be spinning circles around itself.
Yeah, that one might have literally flown over your head. My closing to
everyone is to not rush into everything. Some things come with a rushed
pace, but it’s beneficial. Even those things have a process of slight
waiting & we as people have to learn to be patient & usually, we’re forced
to be still. It’s just something that we have to learn when we don’t wanna
learn it. Getting taught to sit back & look at the big picture can be the
best thing in the world. Learn to let life flow & not rush into everything.
Some things can come with time. “There’s a time for everything & everything
has it’s time”. To state the verse better from Ecclesiastes 3, verse 1, it
says *”To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under
the heaven”*. Our lives are the exact same way. Things in life happen for a
reason. When you rush or question something, then that means it might be
something that you weren’t meant to be bothered with in the first place.
You have to let things simplify themselves. I’ll leave you with this
thought. If you don’t allow your mind to expand or write your thoughts that
are worth sharing, then one will understand what’s possibly out there. I
hope you all have enjoyed this blog. I hope to return within a few months.
Some of you know what’s going on, & I’ll leave it at that. I don’t wanna
sound like a dead horse, because that’s not my style. I just wanted to
share a good blog & get some thoughts out there on paper. Take care
everyone.

@im_so_rude @bushoujohime got some goodies to share.

Thank you @highjinxclothing for the #twitch gaming merchandise. Certainly plan on rocking it to the fullest. Me being the nerd I am. #djm #gamingLife

Thank you @highjinxclothing for the #twitch gaming merchandise. Certainly plan on rocking it to the fullest. Me being the nerd I am. #djm #gamingLife

The lanyard will be used right now. #tetrisIsLife #tetrisIsLove

The lanyard will be used right now. #tetrisIsLife #tetrisIsLove

#textgram #morningthought sorry for short notice. Believe me, I’ll be fine. Nothing to worry about. Just doing what I gotta do

#textgram #morningthought sorry for short notice. Believe me, I’ll be fine. Nothing to worry about. Just doing what I gotta do

#tweegram #morningthought by nature, we live here on earth, but u must know how to live on earth while not living in it. If you ain’t living right, then you’re living wrong. Not everyone is perfect, but we should strive for better daily

#tweegram #morningthought by nature, we live here on earth, but u must know how to live on earth while not living in it. If you ain’t living right, then you’re living wrong. Not everyone is perfect, but we should strive for better daily

Cooling down phase (time for everything)

Well I was just reminded of the disadvantage of not saving a thought when
starting to write a draft through my phone app. Usually I’m stuck on
writing these as drafts through Gmail, but this time I didn’t, & it hurt me
in the long haul. Thankfully, I was in the early stages of writing this
blog, so I didn’t write as much & you hopefully won’t miss as much. So one
thing that sexual partners are known for having is that pillow talk
following their intimate experiences. I would normally call it a session,
but that might fly over with no chance of returning. Nonetheless, an
encounter will occur with someone you’re attracted to, but may not be in
love with. Heck, you may not even be in like with that person. Is this when
I end the blog & let the arguments & debates become as heated as possible.
However, I won’t do that. Random note: I like the direction of this blog
already. Moving forward… So the key element that some people (both men &
women) do is display their affection or feelings towards someone. In other
words, you pick sex as the moment to tell someone that you love them. Now
there are some pros and cons to this. For instance, during the “session”
(so much for going away from the norm lol), a person can say it & the other
person hearing it may respond back saying they love they love them too.
Then the questions start to kick in during what I like to call the
cool-down phase. That cool down phase is literally just that…a chance to
just cool down acknowledge something enjoyable just happened & to move
forward. Now I will warn you that this is my first time writing about love
in a long time (plus doing so while being a legitimate free agent makes
this more creative). So as stated, the cool down phase is a key component
to sessions with your partner. One huge reason why is because during that
time period you can build up energy to do more intimately, or you can talk
about something random. One thing you DON’T bring up
​ during the cool-down phase is your personal feelings, or spark a
conversation that can ruin the mood. Now, again, if you’ve been involved
with someone for a long period of time & you both are attracted to each
other, AND (most of all) you both genuinely know from the bottom of your
heart that you love each other, then you can slip in an “I Love You”, but
the truth of the matter is that in most cases, you are probably sweaty or
still mentally trying to get out of the state of what just happened. I
obviously can’t speak from a woman’s point of view, but as far as a woman
being with a man, the last thing you’re expecting to hear is “I Love you”.
Women think about EVERYTHING. You know goodness well that getting some good
sex will make you bound to say just about anything. During the cool down
phase, you especially don’t talk about buying something for someone. My
personal favorite that men need to STOP doing is asking how it was. If she
didn’t enjoy it, your cool down phase would occur either in another room,
or in your car as you’re heading home with clothes on that got sweat
pouring off of them. And yes, I’m going the heterosexual direction, but
overall, this is a legitimate theory with people as a whole. Even outside
of sex, we have cool down phases with our friends. After you’ve hung out
with someone & just chilled (no sex or anything) & it could even be a
friend that you don’t look at on an intimate level, you utilize that cool
down time following hanging to just let them know that you enjoyed hanging
out or give hugs or make it cool & calm. Not aggressive & expose thirst.
People today need to quit it w/ their thirst coming out of their pores.
That’s about the main focal point of what I wanted to write about in this
blog. It’s so many other directions I wanna take this, but if I do, I will
have you sitting here reading this for next few days. It’ll be loads fun
regardless. ​Nonetheless, there comes a time to talk about and bring up
certain things (this ties into the “time or everything” portion of the
title). As I have emphasized, expressing your love and care for someone you
just met over a few weeks ago isn’t something that should be addressed
during the cool down phase. This goes to BOTH men & women. I think that we
sometimes get caught up in love so fast that we don’t even know what or who
we love. Hell, some of us don’t even love ourselves. If someone who
genuinely meant it told us “they love us”, we wouldn’t accept it, or we
begin to question what that person loves about us, when the truth is that
the love you for you. This oddly ties into my last blog about loving and
being honest with ourselves. It’s an ongoing battle that could possibly end
no time soon. That’s just the way it is honestly. Caring for anything else
beyond our own lives is a mistake that’s made time and time again. Just a
part of the madness sometimes.

​Well, I think this is a good dangling point for this blog. I must say that
I have hit a strong topic that some people have thought about, but not been
sure how to handle it. My personal suggestion…if conversations like this
come up, RUN! No, seriously, just share with people that there’s a time and
place for certain things to be discussed. You know what you do & don’t
wanna hear about at what point of a routine. It’s almost like being in the
car driving & someone tells you about someone close to you passing away. It
could cause your cool down moment to increase & follow up with lots & lots
of stress, which can impede your driving. Just pick and choose when to make
announcements & share things. I know I didn’t need to spend an entire blog
sharing this, but when this topic briefly crossed my mind, I had to talk
about it a little to have some fun & talk about my personal intake on it
(though it wasn’t asked). Until next time, enjoy your day everyone & keep
on shining. As I say time and time again, don’t let anyone or anything take
your shine or possible glory. ​

#textgram #morningthought the thoughts have been flowing this morning literally since midnight. It happens though. Enjoy your weekend everyone.

#textgram #morningthought the thoughts have been flowing this morning literally since midnight. It happens though. Enjoy your weekend everyone.

Mini rant…

Haven’t done one of these in a long time. Guess they’re a lot more fun and pretty sporadic when you think about it…

Daily random social rant. I think the generation gap is something that’s really starting to hurt our society. Here’s what I mean. When you read a post or thought, back in the day it was just what someone felt & there wasn’t much more read into it than that. Nowadays, anything written is literally taken at face value. It’s like our emotions & feelings run rapid based on anything read or seen. A friend of mine just posted a simple status about this, & it triggered my brain a little. Looks like I’ll be in the writing room today. Let’s see what thoughts are in store today (that will probably be misinterpreted by someone).

Take time to get a better handle on your life instead of allowing others think they can run your life for you as you’re living it day after day. .
Made with @instaquoteapp #instaquote #morningthought enjoy your Friday everyone. It’s your moment. Shine and keep shining

Take time to get a better handle on your life instead of allowing others think they can run your life for you as you’re living it day after day. .
Made with @instaquoteapp #instaquote #morningthought enjoy your Friday everyone. It’s your moment. Shine and keep shining

Wrestling w/ Ourselves while lacking Trust

I always love how I can sit & think up some of the most random titles &
wonder where they came from, when I realized that this was a topic that I
was supposed to write about, but didn’t take time to even look at it.
That’s the life of a writer. Most people who write blogs can easily tell
you that they’ve either been told to write about something, OR have a topic
that that they wrote on a piece of paper or typed in a notepad as a
reminder, & the words just sit there floating in space. You can’t blame
anyone else for this. It’s mainly something you have to look in the mirror
and face that it’s happened. Well, this ties smoothly into this morning’s
topic (from a men’s ministry back in April). We as people wrestle with
other people about something because of something that we are fighting
ourselves with. The reason we try to fight against the grain is that, many
times, there are challenges that we feel we can overcome or achieve, when
the truth is that the fight isn’t even worth having in the first place.
That’s just my personal opinion. I could be 100% wrong. Nonetheless, we
have this ongoing fight or battle with ourselves over things that are
usually out of our control. Why is that, & what do we gain once the fight
is complete? Sometimes, the answer is absolutely nothing. Even worse, we
know that nothing is gained from the fight or battle, but yet we continue
to fight them. Why is that? Well, maybe it has to do with not accepting
losing in our lives. Some will use the term failure. Losing or failure are
BOTH words that people don’t like to hear whatsoever. What we as people
don’t realize, however, is that we shouldn’t be trying to fight this fight
on our own. One person who a lot of us have in our lives or in our hearts
is God. He’s there even when we try to uninviting to allowing him into our
routine. One thing to point out…putting that energy into fighting
ourselves just causes that extra stress we don’t need. I am writing this
entry kinda shorthanded. It fell into the infamous “drafts queue” that
meant that the topic was hot when it was first written, but I had to stay
behind it in order to get it in the direction I wanted to go. More than
likely, I will come back to this topic & hit on it much harder. We’ll have
to wait & see. Until then, I’m cutting this one short & jumping right into
my next topic, which is a pretty huge one (on second thought, I will write
about it in this blog).

So I’m talking about how we are wrestling with ourselves. One of the reason
we do this so frequently is because a lot of people don’t trust themselves.
In most cases, the lack of trust in other individuals is usually a given if
there is no sorta trust in ourselves. Trust is a word that’s thrown around,
but not many people know what that means. Trust is having confidence in
someone or something being achieved or accomplished. Reading on Google, the
word “trust” means “firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or
strength of someone or something.”. In so many words, it’s a way of saying
that you put your trust & confidence in something else going a way it’s
meant to & letting your guard down. What’s amazing is that we put our trust
in things when & where we see fit, but we lose trust or faith & even
confidence when it’s needed the most. Here’s a prime example. When you wake
up in the morning, you get out of bed & trust your legs to get your around
the house to get your day started. If something or someone wanted to slow
you down, they could have beaten you up the night before & stopped that
from occurring. Yes, that’s a bit of a blunt analogy, but hear me out on
this. Yes, you paid the water bill & the water “should” be on, but just
because it’s paid doesn’t mean that people who are working outside don’t
hit pipes when doing construction. They happen to hit the pipe that goes to
the water in your house & you have no water running to take a shower. I’ll
even take a step further. We assume that just because we turn it to hot
that the water will be hot. If that knob or switch or whatever decides it
doesn’t wanna work & you have to take a cold shower, then you are putting
trust in that device to work properly. We put trust in so many things and
people we don’t even realize it. It’s amazing because of the lack of trust,
when we don’t even trust that we’re confident & proud of who we are. So one
point of where our lack of confidence shows is when we’re dating someone.
We trust that we’re gonna do the right thing, but we don’t trust the other
person because we can’t trust that we’re gonna be faithful or go out and do
something because our mate isn’t there. OK, that one may have went over
your head. Some people have a tendency to smother & suffocate people to the
point that there’s absolutely no sort of comfort in the relationship. If
you don’t build comfort, then the trust will go away also. I’ll give the
PERFECT scenario. You and your mate spend time together on a pretty
consistent day to day basis, but the one moment that your mate thinks you
need a day apart from each other to chill, the conversation goes hostile
because you think that someone else is being hidden in the process. I am
gonna LITERALLY throw myself out there about a scenario that occurred with
em & drew discomfort & showed that the person didn’t trust themselves
thinking they didn’t trust me. A friend of mine & I wanted to go play
basketball & possibly catch some soccer all within the same day. Well, in
the process of that occurring, I’m getting called & receiving texts to find
out how soon or what time would I be home. Now, regardless of when or if
I’m coming home, I would let the person know when I would be there.
Instead, it turned into a ball of friction because the person didn’t know
how to be themselves & just trust themselves at home w/o me being there.
People go through this time & time again, & it’s how you deal with it in
the long haul. I think you have to give people their time to hang and do
something. And the person who is lacking the trust in themselves…FIND
SOMETHING TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE ON YOUR OWN. You don’t have to have someone
with you to do something all the time. We can live with ourselves, but we
are our worst roommates. I think that’s another blog/monster all by itself.
Living with and dealing with ourselves requires that trust that, if
lacking, will be exposed when & where least expected. I’m writing this blog
as a fair warning that my Tumblr blog will be down for a while, but I will
pick back up in no time in getting these thoughts. I’m not gonna say how
long, because it’s a bit personal & the reason why is even more personal. I
have been keeping my personal away from my blog pretty good & that’s been
the best thing going as of late. Those who have the full story, feel
humbled. I’m gonna work harder on not putting as much of my business out
there. Anyways, back to trust ourselves, lacking trust, & wrestling with
ourselves, this madness has to stop. It’s draining & you gain absolutely
nothing from it. If you do, please let me & the rest of the world know your
secret, because it starts to get old pretty fast. Just manage what life
gives you & don’t complain, because a key component is that there are
plenty of people out here who have it much worse. If you don’t think so,
just keep living. You’d be surprised what you learn w/o even trying. I’ll
leave you there. Yes, still dangled it, because I wanna chip at this topic
in full form when the time is right. Until then, you guys keep reading &
enjoying my writing. I hope to read more in the immediate future, because
it could possibly expand my writing & make these thoughts fly off the
handle bar. Stay tuned & see how insane the madness is, because not only is
there a method to my madness, but you’ve been warned. BT signing out!

#tweegram #morningthought this is a great thought & I must admit that today is your time to shine. Keep your head high when the negativity comes your way.

#tweegram #morningthought this is a great thought & I must admit that today is your time to shine. Keep your head high when the negativity comes your way.

Facing others about our own problems that we haven’t faced ourselves is a piece of the equation that goes unnoticed. Look yourself in the mirror and think about what you’ve done before pointing the finger at others.
Made with @instaquoteapp #instaquote #morningthought I must emphasize that we should evaluate ourselves from time to time when we feel like we’re getting away from our big goal, or the big picture overall. Enjoy your Wednesday everyone. Much luv & respect

Facing others about our own problems that we haven’t faced ourselves is a piece of the equation that goes unnoticed. Look yourself in the mirror and think about what you’ve done before pointing the finger at others.
Made with @instaquoteapp #instaquote #morningthought I must emphasize that we should evaluate ourselves from time to time when we feel like we’re getting away from our big goal, or the big picture overall. Enjoy your Wednesday everyone. Much luv & respect

#textgram #morningthought I apologize that I repeated a quote similar a few days ago. Some thoughts stick out on various ways, & I personally think this is one of them. Enjoy your day everyone.

#textgram #morningthought I apologize that I repeated a quote similar a few days ago. Some thoughts stick out on various ways, & I personally think this is one of them. Enjoy your day everyone.